Talkative and Emotional

“Why does she have to talk so much and be emotional at the same time. Can she not understand, that I am frustrated, or I may need some lone time? I wish she would be quiet for a while.” I think all of you guys must have gone through this at one moment or other.

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First and foremost, you do know that she loves you, and probably you are the only person she is comfortable with to share her feelings openly. Let us take into the consideration that your girl is talkative in nature, but that’s good right because you don’t have to keep on guessing around her. And sometimes if it becomes too much for you to bear, you can politely change the course of conversation. Might even ask her to talk later with you.

Emotions are a part and parcel of every woman and if by chance you don’t get to see it then you must know that she has either been hurt badly by someone else and has been wary of everyone else since then. There is unfortunately another reason, which is- this particular lady might not be completely in love with you.

So, it is up to you to decided whom you want and how much of her affections could make you cringe, inwardly of course.

Please post comments, would love to hear from all of you.

How would you know if he is the ONE?

It is not really easy you know, going through all those confusing occasions when you can feel that the person who is laughing at your jokes or is trying to get close to you ,just doesn’t want to get in your pants. I said that out loud ( smilingly sheepishly) , well it’s the truth anyway. A man might be handsome, charming , with all the qualities that you want in your dream man , but there’s no guarantee that he will be the one. Every turn in our life is made up of a twist, the moment we understand the rhythm or pattern , it changes the wave.

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I am going to tell you one thing before we move further that there is no assurance that any one of the traits mentioned below will match with your future partner, but it did work for me personally and some of my friends and colleagues , whom I have talked to before writing this blog post.

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Without further delay lets begin listing out the characteristic features that you must start searching in your boyfriend/partner/husband.

  • Desirable Qualities–  Searching for the ONE is not like a talent hunt show, where you are ready to grade according to the various parameters. But subconsciously every women creates a checklist of desirable qualities that she wants in her man. Some of us focus more on the physical attributes than the mental ones, others give equal importance to both outer appearance and intellect. If you ask me, I would say both are an integral part of a person. A man’s look as well as his thought process, behavior , personality; makes him likable . There are women who like rough and tough appearance while others love suave individuals. It is up to you to decide what you want, no body can decide for you. The first thing though that you must know is how you exactly want your partner to be.
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  • Your feelings– Once you have decided on the desirable qualities of a man, you must wait. This can be a bit excruciating but it totally depends on your fate and luck. Among Hindus it is believed that meeting your life partner or soul mate is a matter of destiny and I obviously second that. So suppose you have met a guy, who you think is lovely and perhaps meets most of your demands . I mentioned ‘most’ here because no individual can be 100% perfect.  You will have to figure out your feelings for this person. Is it just infatuation, or you like him or is it love? Take your time and observe him, think about your future, can you really not see the years ahead without him or is it only a bit of fun for a couple of days.
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  • His Intentions–  Falling in love with a man , doesn’t necessarily make him the ONE. He should have equally strong feelings for you. If he finds you undesirable or thinks of you only as a friend or colleague you might have to think or probably wreck your brain about the situation. Okay, well no brain wrecking but you might want to find out his intentions for you. May be talk to him subtly , if you can handle that well. If and when you find out he is interested , the next thing you need to know is whether the attraction towards you is his lust or love. Girls easily fall prey in these kind of situations.  There are few indications you can look for :-
  1. Does he support your decisions?  A man might not support all your decisions , he has a different way of thinking after all but at least he will be giving you advice or probably a shoulder to lean on when you need to think.
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  • Is he possessive? This can be baffling, some guys are not too possessive about their girls but every man has a tiny bit of this ancient streak within him. The way they express it might be different , some of them remain quiet or completely silent, some argue, while others might have occasional outbursts.  And if he doesn’t care at all then you have your answer there.
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  • Is it only hook up for him? Well there’s another way to find out about the man’s intention . You should try to understand and properly notice the way his thread of conversation is moving. Does he promise a lot of things , right from the beginning or are his feelings developing gradually. For a man to speak a lot referencing towards future activities and incidents is not normal. Even if you have known each other for a long time,  you cannot expect him to start making promises and giving you assurances right from the next day. Believe me, he too would be naturally fearful of this new development of feelings. But if things are moving too fast, you need to hold up your Sherlock Magnifying glass, because THAT SCREAMS FISHY.
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So once both of you have decided on your feelings for each other , you have to be strong and be there for him, while he looks after you. It is not only his duty to go through hardships for you, the path  you walk on, will have to be overcome by both of you.

That is all for today folks! See you guys soon. Oh and before I forget there are going to be some major changes in the blog. I think its been going a bit bland for my taste.

Finally , Auf Wiedersehen mein lieblings

On time

“How did our life come into this?” he said trying to get a good look at his long estranged wife, who was now busy sipping coffee.

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“You mean me maintaining a distance of few meters from you?” she raised a brow and then chuckled , giving him a glimpse of her uneven teeth. “We are lucky you know”.

He kept on staring at his still mildly warm coffee “You are right, we got together on time”.

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Book Review: Falling In Love Again(Stories of Love And Romance)

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Book- Falling in love again

Author: Ruskin Bond

Published by: Rupa Publications Pvt. Ltd, India

Rating: 4 stars

To begin with the title and cover page of the book really caught my eyes. The myriad of butterflies and flowers were best elements to describe whatever has been published throughout. Variations of romance and love has been presented in the book – fleeting, intimate, joyous, heartbreaking.

Starting with ‘The Eyes Have It’ , which is one of the classics of Ruskin Bond, the contents of the stories seem to gradually grow along with the author. In the first story , the author is a young adult , where he meets a girl somewhere in a passing station. There are few extracts of his popular stories ‘ The room on the roof’ and ‘Delhi is not far’. Also romantic little poems have been included in the chapter ‘ Love Lyrics for Binya Devi’.

The writing pattern is as usual captivating, written in a simple yet elegant way. Bond’s love for the hills of Himachal and towns where he lived have been overly mentioned in the stories. Most of them include a part where he is travelling to or from the hills.

I would recommend the book specially to those Romance Genre lovers who are travelling, makes up for a good read during the journey. It is almost like you can living the story.

Muslin

Soft and light weight

The cotton threads interwined,

Preparing something strong and reliable,

I hope it lasts longer than

I think it will.

P.S. – The design was something I doodled keeping this composition in mind.

© Meloheart

Stillness

Why do I feel that our lives

Have turned so still?

Is it me, or you

Who has lost the thrill?

P.S. – My blog was on hiatus for the past few months, because I was facing a writers block and travelling back and forth from University town to my native city which takes 17 hours for documents. I think my dreams will finally come true.

River and the tree

Flowing peacefully and maintaining

it’s smooth pace,

Never does the river stop to greet

Only during fall, it trials down lightly,

Moving in a slow pace it notices the tree.

The one and only who waits for her every year,

The tree can do nothing but watch her flow,

He is patient, he knows her route

recounting each story –

The memories of storms and rolling rocks,

she collects through the year,

As the dry winter passes away,

Her undercurrents get fiercer

The river turns unstable again,

But the tree manages to stay there for her.

Your crush

Dear sisters,

I know it’s difficult to forget him, the one person with whom you are not in love with; but who is your perfect match. The man who made you happiest and let butterflies stir inside your stomach on your first meeting. Who made you smile throughout the date. The face from which you couldn’t glance away, someone you kept on staring the whole time you sat there.

Yes, I know you have got a crush on him and want to talk to him. But did he tell you how grateful, he is because of the time you spent there or that he is glad to have met you. Did he complement on your looks or your conversational style or any of your features. If not my dear girls its time to move one from this guy.

Remember girls have got more options than boys because the population of females is much less as compared to that of males in India. The guy might not be really interested in you. The reasons for which will be forever unknown. You might have spend days thinking about him, for him you could be a wink away from being dissolved into a far memory.

Well we can be happy by thinking that he was intimidated by your presence or he knew instantly that you are of a higher league, somewhere he wouldn’t be able to reach mentally.

Lovingly yours,

Meloheart