I will be with you forever

I don’t know how many times I have heard this in the past and how many years do I have to hear this words in the future, but it’s always the same “I’ll be there for you whenever you’ll need me”. ūüėä I think it’s a polite way of saying”I’m sorry you’re not good enough to be loved but I may help you at times”. 

This turns out to be frustrating at times because they don’t understand that we don’t need help , if a girl is bold enough to say “I want to be with you “, then she must be strong enough to help herself . Man it’s your love that she is asking for, not some pity. She is not a charity case that you will sympathize for. If you cannot give her the love that she deserves then you better tell her “I can never love you” instead of saying”I will be there for you”.

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A game of pronouns

I can’t take it anymore. I know you want to be with you forever but the circumstances aren’t helping. I thought whatever feelings were there between us was love. It was a mistake and I’m extremely sorry for that.
You said I would change,  you were right I did change , unfortunately it isn’t for your good. I started liking him,  though there are no advances from his part. But my thoughts about our relationship did falter a bit. If my feelings for yoy would be that strong , I wouldn’t even dare think about him. Alas!  nothing can be done regarding this situation. Though you want me to try thinking again,  but its not a pain which time can heal. Nor should you play the false notion that I broke up because of him. No I didn’t, I did it because there’s no purpose of me in this relation. I did it because, I know I don’t love you. It had been a long term infatuation where I was trying to tame my mind into falling for you. There are things which are meant to happen but ours is not one of them.

P.s. A story which all my readers can relate to their own lives. ūüėÄ

Is she hiding something from you?

You are in a relationship for a few years and have taken her for granted. But what if she meets a person who shows more interested in her than you? Have you ever thought of that?¬† I don’t think so or even if you have,¬† you may not have had the time to think it over.

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Now question no.1 Does she love you?
Hell yeah,¬† Otherwise she wouldn’t be spending her time with you.

Question no.2 Is she hiding something from you?  Are those her little achievements which she shares with her friends?
Definitely because you are not  interested in them.

So,  the question is why?

At some point in your relationship she might have stopped speaking to you about the important events of her life. If she’s a performer or something,¬† you definitely should come to know this from the subtle hints she provided,¬† she might have told you “I’m busy tonight ” .Now don’t take this the other way,¬† she’s not busy with someone else,¬† rather its her job keeping her awake till late hours. She’s moving towards success.
And if you ask me why she didn’t spell it out to you -” A woman doesn’t always speak her mind,¬† man “. You gotta dig it out from

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Next comes the phase when a colleague or another friend of her starts praising her (provided¬† she’s really good with it ). The encouragement she wanted from you,¬† she gets it from someone else. This is the final chance for you to intervene ans get her back.

What to do —-
1 Get acquainted –
First of all get acquainted with her line of work or whatever she’s interested in. Suppose she’s a small time author or poet,¬† then you must read her works or follow her blog,¬† to keep yourself updated about her latest ventures. If she’s in the marketing business you can simply ask her the latest developments going on in her job and her contribution in it.¬† If you don’t know much about her profession then just ask her about she’ll be happy to fill you in with the tidbits.

2. Talk to her about your profession –
Make it a habit to talk to her about your job. It will keep you stress free.¬† If you do that she’ll do it too. She’ll be open to about her line of work and Speak to you about her problems .

3. Encouragement –
Now that she’s open to you don’t forget to encourage her during her trials.¬† Make it a habit for the lifetime.¬†
Women are mostly introvert, they may never ask for encouragement,  acknowledgement etc. But their partners must give it to them once in a while.

©Paramita

Is she hiding something from you?

You are in a relationship for a few years and have taken her for granted. But what if she meets a person who shows more interested in her than you? Have you ever thought of that?¬† I don’t think so or even if you have,¬† you may not have had the time to think it over.

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Now question no.1 Does she love you?
Hell yeah,¬† Otherwise she wouldn’t be spending her time with you.

Question no.2 Is she hiding something from you?  Are those her little achievements which she shares with her friends?
Definitely because you are not  interested in them.

So,  the question is why?

At some point in your relationship she might have stopped speaking to you about the important events of her life. If she’s a performer or something,¬† you definitely should come to know this from the subtle hints she provided,¬† she might have told you “I’m busy tonight ” .Now don’t take this the other way,¬† she’s not busy with someone else,¬† rather its her job keeping her awake till late hours. She’s moving towards success.
And if you ask me why she didn’t spell it out to you -” A woman doesn’t always speak her mind,¬† man “. You gotta dig it out from

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her

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Next comes the phase when a colleague or another friend of her starts praising her (provided¬† she’s really good with it ). The encouragement she wanted from you,¬† she gets it from someone else. This is the final chance for you to intervene ans get her back.

What to do —-
1 Get acquainted –
First of all get acquainted with her line of work or whatever she’s interested in. Suppose she’s a small time author or poet,¬† then you must read her works or follow her blog,¬† to keep yourself updated about her latest ventures. If she’s in the marketing business you can simply ask her the latest developments going on in her job and her contribution in it.¬† If you don’t know much about her profession then just ask her about she’ll be happy to fill you in with the tidbits.

2. Talk to her about your profession –
Make it a habit to talk to her about your job. It will keep you stress free.¬† If you do that she’ll do it too. She’ll be open to about her line of work and Speak to you about her problems .

3. Encouragement –
Now that she’s open to you don’t forget to encourage her during her trials.¬† Make it a habit for the lifetime.¬†
Women are mostly introvert, they may never ask for encouragement,  acknowledgement etc. But their partners must give it to them once in a while.

©Paramita

Long Distance Relationship

Ahoy,¬† everyone first of all let me announce that every week from now onwards I’ll host a short story writing competition based on any genre except Erotic. The best story will be posted in my blog plus the individual gets to write a guest post. Interested candidates may get further information by clicking on the contact me tab listed in my blog.
Now coming back to today’s topic- LDR . Whenever we think of getting a kind of Utopia comes to our mind. I had always wondered if the same things happen for couples who maintain Long distance relationship or LDR. Do they think of such Utopian places? The answer is simply Yes. We may live miles apart yet our heart will always beat harder for that special someone.¬† Staying far away keeps the lovers closer than they can imagine,¬† they get to feel each other’s pain deeply.¬† I’m not saying this doesn’t happen in other forms of relationship but distance makes everything difficult for both of them. They get to talk rarely,¬† get to see each other virtually. If one of them gets hurt,¬† then they’ll not be close enough to soothe their lover’s pain and this makes them care more for each other.
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Being in an LDR you have to trust your partner to a greater level. You will also have to keep a check on your partner,¬† so that they don’t get involved in any sort of infidelity. Love is the best thing that happens to us;¬† so try to show them that you love them a lot. And never,¬† I say never again,¬† blackmail them emotionally. It will cause a void in your relationship which you will not be able to fill up.¬†

Try to be possessive,¬† not obsessive Obsession will make things worse for you:¬† gradually you may lose your sanity to think clearly.¬† So here’s my little advice:
If you are in an LDR try to have a regular conversation with your partner.  Try to get things out as much as possible,  so that there are no secrets between both of you.  If you get to hear rumors about your partner  , confront them with a cool mind only then you can decide properly.
So this was all about it, I might be wrapping things up in a hurry and if possible I’ll try to continue this topic some other day.¬† Happy blogging and happy diwali dear friends.

Departure

Starting with the bad news first -my mother departed earth last Monday. May her soul rest in peace!
Well I’m not done yet, today I would like to discuss a very sensitive topic. “SEPARATION OF TRUE SOUL MATES “.The word separation here doesn’t mean divorce (legal separation ).Here the word infers the soul which left this world forever.

The one’s who are alive must be clenching their heart at that moment, for they can never completely feel in ease with the case that their other half is no more with them.
In my case I do feel sad but I’m not as agonized as my father who spent the last twenty eight years of his life with her. Their lives were entwined forever till death let them apart.
They were not meant to set apart before their time together. Now since it has already happened and we are all children of the Lord Almighty so we will have to accept his decision.
In such matters,¬† the widow or widower shouldn’t keep on mourning about their partners.¬† They should try to begin their lives from a new perspective because their soulmates would never want them wreaking their heart.¬† They would want them to move on.

Complexity

Speaking about complexities in a relationship there will be a lot but we will have to adjust ourselves to that.

The problems between us should not be taken casually and we should solve them as soon as possible.¬† Otherwise a drop of water would make an ocean and we’ll lose whatever love and care we have.¬†
So both of you should try to adjust according to¬† the situation. Love is rarely visible but hatred doesn’t take a dime to grow.

Breakups, Chaos

I am back again., after a gap of ten days almost . This blogging thing feels like an extension for me sometimes. But as addicted as I’m to writing I can’t stop posting in my blog.
Now let me start with today’s topic. I have seen lots of break ups till date and it hurts to see so many couples who once couldn’t be separated now don’t want to see each other. The reason probably is our pride which doesn’t let us see beyond our ego.

“He’s a total egoistic jerk”, I don’t remember exactly how many times I had to bear this ranting from my friend after her break up. We females are generally biased when it comes to men.¬† Completely agreeing with a woman and whatever she has to say against her husband or boyfriend. We pass on our shoulder for her to lean on while crying her eyes out.
Girls don’t you think that’s just unfair.¬† I know our friend here feels deceived and justice must be done.¬† But the poor guy who dumped her would have some reason behind it. To make a decision on this matter we should demand hearing from both parties.¬† As a counselor its our prime duty. Men unlike most women have the habit of thinking straight.¬† If they take any decision then its done after long calculative analysis. We on the other hand take any decision with our mind full of doubts. We worry too much about everything and let our emotions dictate the situation,¬† which makes the condition even worse,¬† sickening him to the pit and paving the way for a break up. So just be careful before taking any decision.
If you need advice regarding your first date or other stuff you can check out the advice category which will connect you to the posts. Have a good day.

Am I going to be victimized again?

In a relationship we do feel sometimes that we’re being victimized. That our partner is getting the most of it and yet we can’t take any actions against them. Love has this sort of attachment which makes us forgive their mistakes,¬† their level headedness,¬† their dominance and even the deadly sin which they perform against us. These are the times when we need our friends or siblings. They can think with a head not clouded with love.

If I had to advice in this case I would advice you to speak the matters clearly with him. Boys as much clever they are,¬† most of the times have to be directed. They may think that they are doing the right thing,¬† which they’re not. So just talk to them without any arguments and in some cases you too might be wrong.¬† Just let them know how you feel,¬† he’ll surely understand.
But if he doesn’t then you might need a counselor who will be able to explain both of you more about this relationship thing.
Never give up.

Half way through

I don’t know whether I it’s easy to fall in love with a person already know or with a stranger. If I had to answer I would choose a stranger. Mainly because he’ll have an open mind and will try to understand me pointing out the faults and the divinity within me. While listening to him we too should keep an open mind. He may speak up something unexpected,¬† we shouldn’t let that get into us because whatever it is we do love the person.
Many of us have an unstable mind after being in relationship for a few days you may think that you can’t continue. The day you think that try to reason yourself for which you so dearly want to leave him or her. This will ease your dillema.