Reconnect

Difficulties unknown,  surrounds our lives

The path we follow is crux –

Loosely maneuvered decisions created the wall;

Our minds distrustful holds us apart,

Intense sunlight cannot heat up our chilled relation,

It is only us who can fill the void.

©Paramita

Interview with the Inspirer

Its been more than a month that I took his interview and as always he has given me the inspiration of patience. This person he has taught me along with many other bloggers,  a lot of things regarding blogging to our daily lives,  unaware though. I am honored to present his interview today,  he’s none other than our Success Inspiring blogging friend Mr.Ngobesing Romanus. Let’s see what he has to say.

My questions for him: –

1.When did you decide to become a writer?

ANSWER:Let me first of all thank you for this interview. I feel honored tobe interviewed by a vibrant blogger like you. I like your assertiveness. Toanswer your question, I started writing when I was a little boy in college.I loved the language courses and literature in school.That enabled me todo well in them. When I read great novels by great writers I thought Icould also write something that could be read and liked by others. Then Istarted writing. When I got encouragement from my teachers and classmates I continued.

2. I heard you were related to the mass media earlier. Can you pleaseshare with us the experience.

ANSWER: I have worked with the Mass Media for many years. I started off my working life as a school teacher and later on I moved to broadcasting.This came after University in 1981. I started broadcasting with theofficial state Radio which later became Radio-Television. I have notstopped broadcasting ever since. I have enjoyed doing it all through. WhatI have done best has been to educate, motivate and inspire people through my radio programs to become the best persons that they can become; to bringout the best in themselves and achieve their dreams.

4. What are you working on at the minute?

ANSWER: I am working on my blog. I have lots of things I want to share with the world. I have unpublished works. Publishing in my country is so difficult. I am very optimistic that my works will get to a wider audience in future even this blog will grow.

5.Where did you grow up? Did the place have any influence on your writing?

ANSWER: I started in my village where I was born. Later, I moved to mynation’s capital where I did university studies; got into journalism school and later started working.  These places shaped me in many ways. Of course,you know that family and friends, and teachers all have an influence ineveryone’s life. I am no exception. In my nation’s capital I strengthened my knowledge of French and I am happy about that. My university friends encouraged me to take up broadcasting which has made me what I am.

6.What books have influenced most of your life?

ANSWER: Self-help books have influenced me the most; books which have helped me to bring out the best in me; books that motivate and inspire me.The very first was “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Norman VincentPeale. It’s a master piece. It continues to help millions of people the world over. After that I read many other books like”Think and Grow Rich”by Napoleon Hill. This is a man who has transformed many lives. The motivational books I have read are countless. They have made me what I am.

7.Which was your debut novel?

ANSWER: My debut novel it titled “A Loving Woman in Tears”. It is the storyof a woman who ran into so many problems in her marriage because of an irresponsible husband. I hate when men are not responsible and make theirwives suffer in their marital homes. I believe that the home should be aplace of love, peace and comfort not a place of violence. I am very muchagainst domestic violence. For more than a quarter of a century with my spouse, holding hands has never crossed our minds.

8.How much research do you do before writing?

ANSWER: There are some subjects that need more research than others. I have accumulated a lot of ideas over the years. I write on many topics fairly easily because I have worked on them over the years. But each time I am notsure of a topic I must do research. I believe in good preparation if you want to do a good job and research is part of preparation for the writer. A writer who does not do enough research before writing will be shallow. I always tell my friends that a mind that feeds only on itself will soon wither or dry off. We must know what others have thought and said aboutwhat we want to talk about. Knowledge is best built on knowledge.

9. Name any 4 of your favorite authors.

ANSWER: I already mentioned Norman Vincent Peale, Napoleon hill, Jack Canfield, and Catherine Ponder.  In the area of novel,drama and poetry I have different names. But you asked only four otherwise in motivational writing I could mention Someone like Robert Schuller, Og Mandino, A.C.Williams.

.10. What are your plans this year?

ANSWER: My plans are to take my blog to a higher level. I want to reach one hundred thousand page views and at least three hundred visitors a day. I am looking forward to the day my blog will go viral.

11. When did you start blogging?

ANSWER: I started blogging on Blogger in October 2012. I did not find iteasy so I decided to try Word Press  in 2014. When I saw I was making ahead-way, I imported my Blogger content but my stats did not come with the posts. Actually I consider this blog to be in its second year. In a few months it shall be fully two years.

Thank you again very much for having me as your guest. I enjoy working withyoung people. You are so full of talent and vibrancy. You are also doing agreat job; and your
writings are good. Keep on. Let only the universe beyour limit.

Seeking Romance is thankful to as well Sir for having given us some of your precious time. We wish you lots of success ahead.

©Paramita

Is she hiding something from you?

You are in a relationship for a few years and have taken her for granted. But what if she meets a person who shows more interested in her than you? Have you ever thought of that?  I don’t think so or even if you have,  you may not have had the time to think it over.

Now question no.1 Does she love you?
Hell yeah,  Otherwise she wouldn’t be spending her time with you.

Question no.2 Is she hiding something from you?  Are those her little achievements which she shares with her friends?
Definitely because you are not  interested in them.

So,  the question is why?

At some point in your relationship she might have stopped speaking to you about the important events of her life. If she’s a performer or something,  you definitely should come to know this from the subtle hints she provided,  she might have told you “I’m busy tonight ” .Now don’t take this the other way,  she’s not busy with someone else,  rather its her job keeping her awake till late hours. She’s moving towards success.
And if you ask me why she didn’t spell it out to you -” A woman doesn’t always speak her mind,  man “. You gotta dig it out from

her

.

Next comes the phase when a colleague or another friend of her starts praising her (provided  she’s really good with it ). The encouragement she wanted from you,  she gets it from someone else. This is the final chance for you to intervene ans get her back.

What to do —-
1 Get acquainted –
First of all get acquainted with her line of work or whatever she’s interested in. Suppose she’s a small time author or poet,  then you must read her works or follow her blog,  to keep yourself updated about her latest ventures. If she’s in the marketing business you can simply ask her the latest developments going on in her job and her contribution in it.  If you don’t know much about her profession then just ask her about she’ll be happy to fill you in with the tidbits.

2. Talk to her about your profession –
Make it a habit to talk to her about your job. It will keep you stress free.  If you do that she’ll do it too. She’ll be open to about her line of work and Speak to you about her problems .

3. Encouragement –
Now that she’s open to you don’t forget to encourage her during her trials.  Make it a habit for the lifetime. 
Women are mostly introvert, they may never ask for encouragement,  acknowledgement etc. But their partners must give it to them once in a while.

©Paramita

Is she hiding something from you?

You are in a relationship for a few years and have taken her for granted. But what if she meets a person who shows more interested in her than you? Have you ever thought of that?  I don’t think so or even if you have,  you may not have had the time to think it over.

Now question no.1 Does she love you?
Hell yeah,  Otherwise she wouldn’t be spending her time with you.

Question no.2 Is she hiding something from you?  Are those her little achievements which she shares with her friends?
Definitely because you are not  interested in them.

So,  the question is why?

At some point in your relationship she might have stopped speaking to you about the important events of her life. If she’s a performer or something,  you definitely should come to know this from the subtle hints she provided,  she might have told you “I’m busy tonight ” .Now don’t take this the other way,  she’s not busy with someone else,  rather its her job keeping her awake till late hours. She’s moving towards success.
And if you ask me why she didn’t spell it out to you -” A woman doesn’t always speak her mind,  man “. You gotta dig it out from

her

.

Next comes the phase when a colleague or another friend of her starts praising her (provided  she’s really good with it ). The encouragement she wanted from you,  she gets it from someone else. This is the final chance for you to intervene ans get her back.

What to do —-
1 Get acquainted –
First of all get acquainted with her line of work or whatever she’s interested in. Suppose she’s a small time author or poet,  then you must read her works or follow her blog,  to keep yourself updated about her latest ventures. If she’s in the marketing business you can simply ask her the latest developments going on in her job and her contribution in it.  If you don’t know much about her profession then just ask her about she’ll be happy to fill you in with the tidbits.

2. Talk to her about your profession –
Make it a habit to talk to her about your job. It will keep you stress free.  If you do that she’ll do it too. She’ll be open to about her line of work and Speak to you about her problems .

3. Encouragement –
Now that she’s open to you don’t forget to encourage her during her trials.  Make it a habit for the lifetime. 
Women are mostly introvert, they may never ask for encouragement,  acknowledgement etc. But their partners must give it to them once in a while.

©Paramita

Still Together

You were not the most handsome guy,
Standing out in the crowd was not your way

Yet you stood for me when I had none to hold onto –
Keeping me safe from the wary eyes,

Being stout and all it was funny to watch;
You held your ground against them,

May be it was your confidence or the attitude
I know not what brought us close,

The way your shoes were never polished,
Your frequent lame jokes,  never seemed a fault.

Yes I knew I was falling for you,
May be I should have spelt my LOVE

But it was the time to put a period behind my thoughts,
I couldn’t destroy your life with your little family;

I have never expressed my feelings
And we’re still friends,

Probably this Is the best way we fit Our lives peaceful, with us still together.

©Paramita

Miles Apart

Standing there on the other side,
I kept on waving my hand

You were moving back,
For another year I had to wait –

The waiting doesn’t hurt me
But staying miles apart does.

Initially I knew it would be difficult,
Now the distance seems unbearable;

No way do I think I can stay away
Yet every morn your voice calms my mind –

Years have made me stronger
I know I can meet the ends and you can too

Just love me the way you always do,
And I promise my love never to forget you.

©Paramita

Was it really my fault?

The first time I told you I had an ex,
You called me a slut –

How passionate had I been for you, those days
Mundane life had passed I thought.

We got married,  it was all a fairy-tale
A messed up life was getting settled.

We got an angel,  you called her my fault
The time you needed was stolen away;

Realization struck me,  you were never sensible,
A beautifully planned life was turning obtrusive;

So deep in love I wouldn’t leave you,
Bearing all the pain and abuse I still loved you

My angel had feared you forever it seemed
Could you not for once love her as you would for a son?

You turned insane ,  nights were  dreadful,
How.did  I tolerate you  for so long? I thought

Decision made, I left you tagging my angel along,
She bloomed that day,  I could see her smile.

You again made me guilty,  so I slapped you,
She clapped and said “Mama it was never your fault. “

©Paramita